A COUPLES WORKSHOP
SPARK
The most fun you'll have with your clothes on.
You already know how to be partners. Come remember what it feels like to be lovers.
A date-night workshop for couples who want more play, attraction, curiosity, and electricity.
LIMITED TO 10 COUPLES
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5:45pm: Doors Open
6-8pm: Workshop
6:15pm: No Entry/No Refund
And maybe you miss the version of the evening where the dishes can wait because something more interesting is happening.
The flirtation.
The curiosity.
The little charge in the air.
The feeling that there is still something to discover here.
You love each other. You’re just tired of feeling like excellent roommates.
There’s a particular thing that happens in a comfortable relationship.
You get very good at being a team.
You know whose turn it is to deal with dinner. You coordinate calendars. You make decisions. You remember the dentist appointment, the dog food, the flight time.
You may even be really good at it.
And somehow the person you once couldn’t stop touching becomes the person you’re paying bills with.
Nothing dramatic happened.
You didn’t stop loving each other.
You just got very, very good at running a life together.
Spark is for that.
More play.
More noticing.
More flirting.
More anticipation.
More moments where your partner stops feeling completely familiar and becomes really interesting to you again.
That’s the territory we’re going to play in.
This is not about fixing your relationship.
You don’t need a crisis to want more electricity.
You don’t need to be fighting all the time. You don’t need to convince yourself that something is secretly wrong.
You can have a loving, solid relationship and still want more of the part that feels like the two of you, not just the household you operate together.
What couples say:
“The biggest surprise was realizing that what makes me feel wanted is completely different from what makes my partner feel wanted. We’ve been together for years, and I genuinely learned something new about him.” - BD
“Such a fun and fabulous way to play with connection and desire. Having the space and time to practice makes me more confident trying it spontaneously.” - LW
“There were so many great concepts and exercises. It really helped my partner use his words in a way I have never heard before.”- AT
Spark is a date night with a little more intention behind it.
A normal date usually starts with, “Where should we go?”
Spark starts somewhere else: What changes the energy between you?
Over the course of the workshop, I’ll guide you through a progression of experiences designed to help you notice what makes you more available for attraction, what tends to pull you out of it, and what your partner responds to in ways you may not have realized.
Then you get to use what you discover together.
You’ll move from conversation and reflection into more playful, embodied exercises involving attention, space, flirting, proximity, and anticipation.
You won’t spend the night sitting on a couch talking about what has gone wrong in your relationship.
You’re here to have an experience with each other.
Spark isn’t designed to give you a great two hours and send you home hoping you remember what happened.
You’ll leave with tools that make it easier to keep using what you discovered, and support to keep it going afterwards.
More Than A Workshop
Your Spark Map
A personalized map of what helps each partner move toward desire, what tends to shut it down, what makes each of you feel most wanted, and what you want to keep exploring together.
Unique to you.
A much better starting point than guessing.
Flirting That Lands
Because “flirt with your partner more” is not especially useful advice.
This guide helps you translate what you learn about your partner into words, attention, gestures, energy, and pacing that actually speak to the way they like to feel wanted.
The Date Night Guide
For Couples Who Want More Than a Nice Dinner
Three date-night blueprints built around the feeling you want to create together.
Instead of choosing an activity and hoping the right mood appears, you’ll have ideas for shaping the setting, pace, conversation, attention, and touch around the experience you actually want.
Your Spark Integration Session
Your ticket also includes a private 30-minute session with me after the workshop.
Bring whatever surprised you, what worked, what felt harder, what you want more of.
We’ll look at what you discovered and figure out how to make it useful in the relationship you actually have.
Everything above is included with your Spark ticket.
“Is this going to be awkward?”
Maybe for a minute.
You’re doing something new with someone you know well. That can have a little edge to it. But I’m not going to throw you into the deep end.
The workshop builds gradually.
We start by slowing down, getting out of the week, remembering something about your attraction to each other, and getting curious.
From there, the experiences become more playful and more charged.
Everything is fully clothed.
The intimate exercises are with your own partner. You won’t be asked to be sexual with strangers. You won’t be asked to perform intimacy for the room. And you remain in choice throughout the experience.
The point isn’t to be good at Spark.
It’s to notice what actually happens between the two of you.
Spark is probably for you if…
You genuinely like your relationship, and each other.
You’ve become very good at being partners and would like to feel a little more like lovers.
You miss flirtation, surprise, attention, play, anticipation, or that feeling of being pulled toward each other.
You’re both willing to be curious, even if one of you is more excited about this workshop than the other.
And you want something more interesting than another conversation about how you should “prioritize date night.”
Spark is not a way to convince an unwilling partner to become more sexual, prove that one person is the problem, or create pressure for a particular outcome.
Mutual willingness matters.
If you’re the one who found this workshop…
…and you’re wondering how to send it to your partner without making them think you’ve secretly enrolled them in couples therapy, try something like this:
Meet Your Guide
I’m Heather Atles.
I help people get better at the parts of intimacy that don’t become easy just because you love each other.
Desire. Pleasure. Attraction. Boundaries. Shame. Flirting. Kink. Asking for what you want. Saying what you don’t. And finding your way back to each other when daily life has taken over.
My approach is experiential.
I don’t just want you to understand an idea.
I want you to notice what happens in your body, try something with your partner, get information from the experience, and discover something useful about the two of you.
Spark is a fun, playful version of this work.
You get a room, a structure, some guidance, and permission to pay a completely different kind of attention to the person you came with.
Certified in the Somatica™ Method, I bring over 20 years of work in shame resiliency, pleasure, and embodied connection, and something most couples have never experienced: a guide who knows how to make the shift feel real — not just talked about.
Spark is two hours of my juiciest work. Come curious, leave lit up.
A few things couples ask.
Is this explicit or sexual in nature?
1
Spark is a fully clothed, guided experience — think of it as a charged, intentional date, not a performance. Everything is playful, present, and entirely at your own pace. Everything is opt-in, and you remain in choice throughout the workshop. Nothing is forced, and you decide how fully you want to participate in each experience.
Is this only for couples with issues?
2
Not at all. Spark is designed for any couple who wants more — more electricity, more play, more of that feeling where the rest of the room disappears. Whether things are great and you want to turn them up, or you've just been busy and want to reconnect, this is for you.
What if we feel awkward?
3
That's more common than you'd think — and completely fine. The opening is designed to ease you in. You won’t be expected to walk through the door instantly knowing how to do any of this. I’ll give you clear prompts and we’ll build from there.
How is this different from couples therapy?
4
Completely different. We’re not spending the night analyzing what’s wrong with your relationship. Spark is experiential—you’ll learn something, try something together, and notice what actually happens between you. Think less couples therapy, more unusually good date night with expert guidance behind it.
Is this LGBTQIA+ friendly?
5
Wholeheartedly yes. All couples are welcome — any gender, orientation, or relationship dynamic. This is your space.
What should we wear? Do we need to bring anything?
6
Comfortable clothes you can move in. No props, no workbooks, no preparation needed. Just show up with each other.
What if one of us is more hesitant?
7
Completely fine. You're always in choice. Every experience is opt-in and there's no pressure to go further than feels good for both of you.
The evening starts at 6pm. What happens after 8pm is up to you.
It's 8pm.
You walk out together knowing a little more about what gets their attention—and they know a little more about what gets yours.
Maybe a look lingers longer.
Maybe a hand on your back lands differently.
Maybe the conversation on the way home goes somewhere it hasn’t gone in a while.
There’s no required ending to the night.
Desire can be expressed freely without creating an obligation.
What you do with the electricity is yours.